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As long as you’re not sleeping with them all or leading someone on, then it’s completely legitimate to have a few girls ‘on the roster’, so to speak. Women do exactly the same thing, so don’t feel bad about it and keep your options open. If you’re not feeling a spark after 3 dates then time to let them down gently – if you’re not feeling the chemistry then the likelihood is nor is she.

I don’t want to be dated because you’re looking for a woman to date, I want to be dated specifically because I’m me. You still have to talk to people and go out of your way to meet people and be a decent person, it’s just that it will be far more organic and easy to find someone you like after you’ve developed yourself. You’ll have something interesting to talk about, you’ll have tangible accomplishments to show off (which will in turn reinforce your confidence because you’ll have proof of how awesome you are), you’ll learn how to talk to people of varying ability levels (which will also train you how to adapt conversation to different types of listeners), and it will give you a driving force to keep working on yourself. Body language flirting can go a long way. According to Psychologia.com, the main element of body language flirting is highlighting your sexual differences in order to attract the opposite sex.

You have qualities and skills that I just don’t have. You were born with them. It cannot be learned or explained. It’s damned if you do, damned if you don’t.

9) Don’t spend too much time on your messages

It’s a cliché thing to say, but love works pretty casually. Don’t have your goal be to get a girlfriend, have it be to have fun and enjoy your time.

• I know there’s a lot here to unpack, guys.
• You’ll get results.
• But allow some time for you to both get to know each other well.

Being in the friend zone is going to be more painful for both of you than losing her or the opportunity to know her. There is no problem with having women as friends. In fact, knowing a range of women makes you seem pre-selected and attractive – it can be a good thing.

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If you’re doing everything right, you’re probably ready to find out how to ask a girl to be your girlfriend. And remember, no one loses a relationship because of one bad kiss. Know you’ve got plenty more practice coming if you’re doing everything else right.

I don’t want your effort. I don’t want your money. I don’t want that pressure, I just want to get to know people.

Remember, you’re still qualifying her. If they broke up for a stupid reason, or she doesn’t sound like she’s being 100% honest about what happened, alarm bells may rightfully be going off. You don’t have to razzle and dazzle them with Nobu, Sexy Fish, Novikov, and the whole Mayfair tour.