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The whole point of making yourself into a socially viable catch is that you get to choose – you will never have to settle again. You need to give the same impression to the women you meet on a night out and create intrigue by talking to everyone in the room. A girl wants a boyfriend people like. She eventually has to introduce you to her friends and family. In the back of her mind, she’s looking for someone who knows and gets on with people, and in her conscious mind, she’s looking for someone fun and exciting that sparks her natural curiosity.

1) Learn to be comfortable with yourself

You have qualities and skills that I just don’t have. You were born with them. It cannot be learned or explained. It’s damned if you do, damned if you don’t.

18. How To Ask A Girl To Be Your Girlfriend

You’ll naturally become choosier, by learning what it is you truly desire in a woman. Women want men who feel like they are the choosers — men who select the women they want in their life.

She’ll also be more comfortable. And the social pressure of having sex will decrease, as she feels more comfortable with you.

• If she sees that sincerity in you, she’ll probably become a lot more comfortable and say yes in time.
• Be sure to stay active, and your confidence will reach a stage where you become a real, long-term prospect as a partner.
• Don’t be that guy.

Understand you are putting the pressure on her when you ask her out in front of a crowd of people. A good route to ask a girl out and make her feel special is to write a note on the bottom of her morning beverage. It may take a few times buying her morning latte before you muster up the courage to ask her out, but trust me, it’s super worth it.

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Which means you need to explore the reasons why you’re introverted. Most likely it’s because of social communication skills, lack of self-esteem, not feeling confident enough around others, and the mindset that you NEED to DO something to get noticed… and you don’t have to DO anything. First of all – change your mindset. Stay away from thinking you must get noticed. That will only put you on the opposite side of where you are – you’ll risk becoming a show off or a guy who feels they need to impress a woman to get her to feel attracted to you.

Knowing your value is an essential step to having confidence in yourself in any area of your life — especially when it comes to meeting a girlfriend. Of course, if you’re taking risks and interacting with those women, it also becomes more apparent that they’re just regular people like you. Whatever your story is about why you can’t get a girlfriend — you’re too short, too bald, too poor, too ugly — is not the REAL reason you don’t have a girlfriend. And it’s not about money, status, or power either.

In reality, women want a guy that they can be themselves around and that they can feel safe with, regardless of what they look like. Don’t assume anything and don’t tell her she “should” do anything. It’s not about being in the friend zone, it’s about showing you care. But when it comes to getting girls to fall head over heels in love, all a guy really needs to do is show his lady friend that he really cares about her. Once you feel like you’ve chatted enough, ask them out for a coffee.

You’ll start giving off the vibe that you don’t need women to make your life complete. You’ll take more risks, find approaching and talking to girls less daunting and won’t worry about the consequences. Talking about exes or girls who’ve slipped through your fingers – If you’re negative about past experiences with women you’ll sound bitter. If you’re positive you’ll sound like you’re still pining for someone.

Why is she beautiful to you? Can you imagine her as your girlfriend? Wait until you’re in the midst of conversation to bring up any compliments, so you’ve had time to figure out what they are. A compliment doesn’t have to be creepy – they can be an immensely powerful transmitter of positive emotion. If you’re looking for a girlfriend, don’t settle for a girl that doesn’t meet your expectations.